I remember growing up when the most popular high school sports for girls were the piece and the field, volleyball, basketball, football, softball, cheerleaders and cross-country. But rugby? It was never part of the conversation.
So when I was asked by Dietary to participate in an Olympic training experience with the The Women’s National Rugby TeamI didn’t hesitate. I was all in.
Of course, I was nervous. However, this changed when I received the roster and I didn’t recognize not one but two women who looked like me. Two black women, smiling from ear to ear, stood high as part of a team of Olympic History. Anxiety gave me his place of curiosity and pride.
Rugby has long been considered a main white sport. A 2020 report from The guardian He found that fewer than 8% of players identified as black, Asian or other ethnic background. And if you isolate this shape to exclusively black athletes? The percentage is reduced even lower.
With representation so limited, the challenge is not only natural – it is mental. He knows that you are one of the few. It presses your body to its limits while conveying the invisible weight of visibility. But it is also a gift to compete, create space and reshape the narrative in real time.
As a two -time Olympic and bronze medal Ariana Ramsey It reminds me after training, “Your big and hard work is shaping the athlete you need to be.
These words were stuck with me because, as a black woman athlete, or in my case, a journalist appears only half of the battle. It’s never just for play or profession. This is the re -writing of what is possible, even when the narrative was never written with us – black women and many others from historically marginalized backgrounds – in the mind. Are you going to see? Yes, absolutely, but it is also more than that. The older I get, the more I realize that she is going to make sure that the next little brown girl sees herself, too.
Being at the heart of all Elite Chula Vista Training CenterOne of the top campuses of Olympic Education in the country, the game itself questioned any natural limit I thought I knew.
It was exciting, yes, but it also caused something deeper. Created an internal shift from the fraudulent syndrome to the built -in power. I began to understand that true power in all forms is not just about physical ability. I lost some kicks. My sport certainly didn’t kick the way I hoped. And when it’s time to fight, I came to the first place? Absolutely not. (Laughs)
But the real victory had nothing to do with numbers. It was to let the mental chains, to silence the inner critic and to calm the external noise that sometimes kept me (and sometimes he continues to do so) in my daily life. The silent whispers of discouraging, defeat or doubt. The prolonged question “What if I’m not enough?” What if things don’t go as I was planning? “What if I am not ready or responding to expectation?”
That day, I didn’t just appear on the court. I pushed the noise. And not only did I appear for Dontaira K. Terrell as a whole – I proved something to myself and anyone else. Even if I didn’t do the stadium of the match, the treatment landed or run my fastest race – I laughed through all of it. Without pressure. I was present. I liked the moment. I got what I couldn’t do and changed it in a lesson, not a curve.
When everyone else seems to be gaining dynamic, winning wins or live their so -called Better lives, can let you crush and ask yourself, “What about me? ”
It took time to get here. For so long, I have brought the burden of trying to be perfect. Be a winner. To overcome, regardless of the cost. This pressure has caused me more damage than good. But letting you get out of these restrictive beliefs? That was freedom. Who cared if I hadn’t caught as fast as the person next to me? This was the impulse I didn’t know I needed.
If I am honest, I grew up in a household of excellence. Parents with trained college. High quality siblings. World travelers. The winners of the trophy. My older sisters are not only entrepreneurs and businessmen – two are lawyers, and one is acoustic (in fact, the first black woman receiving a Audiology doctor degree (Au.d.) in Midwest). So, as you can imagine, anything less than my best never felt like an option.
“Growing up, I was working very hard, but I didn’t see the payment right away, so it made me feel that what I was doing was not worth it,” the American Union Rugby player Nia Toliver She said, reflecting the tips she would give to her younger self. “But when I think about where I am now, it’s because of the work I did. It was a long-term profit-not immediate success.”
Talk about words that resonated.
In today’s society – from television to Tiktok, Instagram and everything is easy to feel like falling back. When everyone else seems to be gaining dynamic, winning wins or live their so -called Better lives, can let you crush and ask yourself, “What about me? ”
We are in a microwave cultivation. Everything looks instant. But real success? Real alignment? It takes time. And that’s why I had to learn to separate the two to put things in perspective. Just as Maya Angelou reminded us: “All great achievements take time.”
That is why I am as ruthless to celebrate the little victories. It is the proof of sand, grains and perseverance behind the closed doors. The effort you put on when no one is watching. When the applause is quiet. When the likes in “Gram are few and very far away. I know firsthand that these moments are the most difficult.
This is the restructuring of the narrative: you do not need to be perfect, but you must continue to appear. After spending the day with the team, when it was time to abandon the US Olympic and Paralympic education, I was hit by another awareness. The roles of coaches, sports psychologists, team nutritionists, personal trainers and listing continue in rugby reflecting something I have understood in my own life: your support system matters as much as all your skills.
If you want to win in anything on the court or in real life, let me tell you, this institution must be fixed. This encouragement, this accountability, this belief in you when you doubt? This kind of support is top because no matter how gifted you are, you can’t do it yourself. To win this thing called Life, both in and out of the game, you need people who help you stay in the game, even when life makes the ultimate more.
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