Handcuffed behind the back
Mechanism: Handcuffs — which may sound simple enough, but the array of products on the market can be bewildering. Let me walk you through just a few options:
Of course, there are also the classics silk satin ties and soft constraints for his fans Fifty Shades. For DIYers of a different kind, there are all kinds unworn rope which can be used to tie wrists together or to bedposts — or just about anywhere else you can imagine. Unless you’re very good, that is PVC connection tape or tire silicone cuffs it could be your new best friend.
Don’t discount a good old-fashioned pair of handcuffs to get either job done (just don’t lose the key). If you want a set with a little more za za zoo — and fur cuffs feel a little fleeting — perhaps it tickles feather wrist cuffs have more appeal. Find a pair that quite elegant to double as a jewelyou can also wear the cuffs in public on date night as a teaser of what’s to come.
How to: As with all forms of BDSM, communication is paramount. It’s important to discuss roles, expectations, boundaries and safety in advance. Who’s holding back? Which positions do you want to try? How much freedom of movement does the restrainer need to feel comfortable? Are there scenes you want to explore? Choose a safe word and be sure to keep the keys or pair of scissors on hand in case someone needs to be released quickly.
Depending on what you decide, you can secure your partner’s arms behind his back, above his head, or on separate bed posts. There are also fruit in the neck and wrist to thigh cuff options available if desired is further limited without being tied down.
“If a person allows their partner – with consent and negotiation – to tie their wrists or have fluffy handcuffs, this will enhance the excitement,” said Dr. Britton. “Something is suppressed, so the energy will go in another direction.”
